Change what We Can

Both Marty Rossman in his book, The Worry Solution and Lissa Rankin in her Daily Flame for your inner pilot light teach us to change what we can and not worry about things we cannot change. Lissa writes,

47-nmm-2164848567-ldcrossDear Jerome,

The world is full of people trying to change the things they can’t, and not trying to change the things they can.

But you don’t need to be one of them.

Give this a try, darling.

Focus on trying to change the things you can. Let go of trying to change the things you can’t.

And trust that I’ve got everything else handled.

You’ll be amazed how much easier you’ll breathe when you’re not spinning your wheels and trying to beat down brick walls (not to mix metaphors).

When you change the things you can and surrender the things you can’t, you create space in your life for more joy, more expansiveness, less stress, and less resentment.

Then . . . before you know it, miracles happen.

Here to help you change what you can,

Your Inner Pilot Light

How many times do we have to hear this before we actually listen to these teachings?

I find myself worrying about how to make this site more useful and popular and change the way people perceive it, but nothing I do seems to help it catch on.

What are you trying to change that you can’t? What do you worry about?

Books by Marty Rossman and Lissa Rankin

The Worry Solution: Using Breakthrough Brain Science to Turn Stress and Anxiety into Confidence and Happiness

Martin Rossman M.D.

Our brains are hardwired for worry. While our ancient ancestors had a legitimate use for the fight-or-flight instinct, today what was once a matter of survival has become the stuff of sleepless nights and anxiety-filled days. At its best, worry is a way for us to turn over and solve a problem … [Read More…]

Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself

Lissa Rankin M.D.



We’ve been led to believe that when we get sick, it’s our genetics. Or it’s just bad luck—and doctors alone hold the keys to optimal health. Therefore when Dr. Lissa Ran… [Read More…]

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